This is Ethiopian Review Policy Research Center’s series on From Dictatorship to Democracy extracted/quoted from books and articles published by Albert Einstein Institution and similar sources
When we think of discussions as a contest, conflict occurs because we are more concerned with getting what we want than with attempting to understand each other’s needs, harms and emotions. We become defensive about our respective positions.
When all parties communicate their needs and feelings, the need to be defensive disappears. By understanding and accepting each other, we can transcend our individual positions and focus on solving the problem together. We switch from arguing over positions to collaborative problem solving.
The ultimate goal of the process of understanding others – Cooperation, Trust and Collaboration for Reconciliation is the creation of long-term sustainable relationships.
It enables us to live in the present, making our life as a nation and our lives as individuals in a shared future.
To view the process of Collaboration CLICK: Part 7- Understanding Others – Collaboration